To be evenly yoked, do you know what it means? Often times oxen were used to thresh wheat, barley and other grains. The oxen were yoked to one another in order to work together and make the burden light. If however, the oxen were not evenly yoked, then the yoke must be corrected and made even, otherwise the yoke would break. With two strong oxen working together much can be done. When two strong oxen pull against each other, then nothing is done and the bond is broken.
You can take Paul’s teachings and apply them to many aspects. Paul is speaking of relationships between the Godly and ungodly. How can two with different Lord’s be evenly yoked? One Lord being God, the other an idol or even their own desired path. The two would continually pull in different directions until one of two things occur. One, the two correct the yoke and become even; they both desire the same path, following the orders of the same Lord. Two, they pull apart the yoke and become separated. The workers who lead the beast of burden had to find which oxen worked well with each other. Certain oxen would only work with certain oxen. You could not force two to work together for long, they must each desire to work alongside the other.
Paul contrast this with light and darkness. When you flip your light switch, you will not find a random circle of darkness in the middle of the room. Darkness flees at the will of the light. Darkness has no dealings with light, just as light as no dealings with darkness. The two will never be found together.
Taking both examples, look at your relationships, on any scale. Friendships, Family, your significant other, and especially your relationship with God. Are you evenly yoked in your relationships? Do you try and force light into darkness or darkness into light? Reflect for a moment, consider your own desired path…now consider the path of the one you’re yoked to. Are you even?
“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” – Matthew 11:28-30
The first relationship that must be made even, is your yoke with Christ. All other yokes will be uneven otherwise. The path of your Lord your God MUST be the same path YOU desire. If it is not, then you will either pull your other relationships apart, or lead your friends, family, etc. down a wrong path away from the Lord.You must determine however, which path the person you’re yoked to is taking. If it is away from the Lord, then it must be immediately realigned and made even. If it is not, then breaking the yoke in order to follow the Lord would be the right move to make. It would be better to thresh the wheat alone than to be pulled down an undesired path. God is faithful, He will send another ox that will yoke well with you. Together, the new bond can progress down the path of righteousness.
Your yoke with Christ will be light, so long as you continue to desire as He does. Your heavy loads are light for the Lord, He will take your burdens and make your path easy. Break away from Him and you will find yourself trying to force two yokes that don’t belong. You desire light, yet yoke with darkness, you desire righteousness, yet yoke with ungodliness. Yoke with Christ first, then He will make your path straight. For you, and all who yoke with you. He desires light, He will lead you there. He desires righteousness, he will lead you there. If you were to ever break away, He will wait for you. He knows that YOU YOKE WELL WITH HIM, and He desires you to yoke with Him.
Apart from Christ, you are broken. together, you are made Holy. The Holy spirit dwells within those yoked with Christ. Heed His guidance, He will show you the path of righteousness. Born anew, Baptized in the Spirit. Live your life following the path of your Lord your God, yoke well with Him and He will make straight your paths.
“In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight.” – Proverbs 3:6 (NASB)
“With weeping they will come, And by supplication I will lead them; I will make them walk by streams of waters, On a straight path in which they will not stumble…” – Jeremiah 31:9
“and make straight paths for your feet, so that the limb which is lame may not be put out of joint, but rather be healed.” – Hebrews 12:13